I had a breakdown, found light, and now ... (drumroll please...)
Yesterday morning the boys came down downstairs. Their little faces were still sleepy and had the pillow case impressions on their cheeks.
With smiles on their faces they told me:
"MOOOOM We Maaaade OOOOUr Beeeedddss"
(To clarify they stretched out every word for emphasis).
me: "you did?"
Them: "Yes! And we even made it the good way with the covers on it! We thought it would make you happy"
Me: "It does and I love you."
I knew I had to find someway to reward the positive behavior. What kind of a parent would I be if all I did was reward the negatives? So we made smores! (not right that second... I mean seriously I had to get a decent breakfast in them first but we ate delicious melty chocolate marshmallow graham cracker sandwiches.)
So now here is the compromise to end all compromises...This morning Im rummaging throughout he cabinets for something to make for breakfast...I haven't been grocery shopping (wah wah wah). I find four frozen waffles, pop them in the toaster. Up they come and I proceed to put syrup on two, as I am doing this Buddy comes in and says, "I want peanut butter on mine!" I pause and look down because I am currently pouring syrup on a third waffle.
I take a sigh of relief I still have one plain and I tell him, "Sure I'll put peanut butter on yours."
Well as soon I say that Doc decided he wants peanut butter. In my head it was all over. Tantrums, crying, screaming but then I took a breath and said, "Buddy, do you think you could share half of your waffle with Doc and Docy will give you half a syrup waffle?"
He responses: "Yeah, yup I can do that because sharing means caring."
oh and please do not worry I rewarded that positive behavior almost immediatly with two bricks off a Hersey's bar left over from yesterday. I am going to need something other than sugar as a reward at some point but for now, "if you got it, use it."
GOOD MORNING PHILADELPHIA!!!!!!!!!!!!
HALLELUJAH
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